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Posted in family, reading, socialization with tags , , , , , on August 31, 2010 by darcyarts

If you can think for yourself, are passionate about questioning assumptions and open to a bit of subversion read this book! Here is your chance to have your mind opened if you will allow it.
Gilbert gives herself to the conundrum of commitment as only a very bright questioner of authority could. She gamely challenges her own nagging doubts about the institution of marriage. She explores the twisted route (or roots) of its transformation, and maps its frequent changes over the last few centuries.
If you are perfectly comfortable following the prescribed societal routines, if you are deep-fried in any kind of fundamentalist religious beliefs and opposed to discovering historical context that might rattle your adamantine notions, if you expect this book to sing the praises of the bloated undertaking that is currently assumed to fulfill all a girl’s princess-shaped fantasies, go elsewhere.

That’s the Amazon review I wrote this morning for Elizabeth Gilbert’s Committed: A Sceptic Makes Peace with Marriage. I was irritated by reviews obviously written by a.) People who were pissed that this book wasn’t Eat, Pray, Love 2 or b.) jealous academicians who wished they could have gone to Italy,India and Bali, met a beautiful Brazilian man and had to research marriage before doing the deed with their passionate lover.

Come on, haters! Open your hearts. Go buy a buddha at Two Buttons Import meditate, chill. Let go of your anger.

Getting what you want in life does have something to do with surrendering your lame fear-based plans, opening up to what life/god/providence will offer if you can let go of your assumptions, see the real thing and grab it.

LGBT friends, this book is full of good information that may potentially correct the mind of fundamentalist-blind or uninformed anti-gay marriage folks to whom you may be related in some way.

Excerpt from committed after Gilbert has realized people have always created the secreted, loving  unions they need and want  inspite of what the man says in recognizable in the name of the state, law, or religion.

pg. 264 — “It is not we as individuals, then, who must bend uncomfortably around the institution of marriage; rather, it is the institution of marriage that has to bend uncomfortably around us. Because “they” (the-powers-that-be) have never been entirely able to stop “us” (two people). from connecting our lives together and creating a secret world of our own. And so “they” eventually have no choice but to legally permit “us” to marry, in some shape or form, no matter how restrictive their ordinances may appear. The government hops along behind its people, struggling to keep up, desperately and belatedly (and often ineffectually and even comically) creating rules and mores around something we were always going to do anyhow, like it or not.”

Craft Junk Sale

Posted in Art, constructions, family with tags , , , , , , on July 9, 2009 by darcyarts

It’s nearly 8 a.m. and that means only two hours remain before the door open at the Discovery Shop. They are having a craft and sewing notions sale today and I will be there.

They will have lot’s of quilting things, yarns, sewing tools and craft supplies. I am not a quilter but I can always use thread. The Discovery Shop ladies bundle together lovely bags of thread. Rainbows of colored thread, often on old wooden spools, are my fave find.


Now that I have managed to sell a few vintage items on Etsy along with my handmade things, I can browse through thrift shops guilt free. I’m pretty good at finding the cute. Everybody loves owls, cute deer, kitties.

I have to be careful not to buy anything too heavy. I’m really bad at guessing shipping costs. I should really buy a scale. And then there is breakage to consider if the item is fragile.

Still, I only go thrift store shopping when I really need a break from the psychic and physical rigours of chimp contruction. When I need to stretch my vision and my legs. Or when Miss Jessica Pratt is in town.

MissJessFramedI got two of these elaborate looking frames at All Saints thirft store,  my favorite. This is a picture of Jessica in her high school era days. She was very into her 19th Century Poet drag. Go Rimbaud.

She’s always been an artist and seems to have inherited by thrift-store eye. She finds very good things.

I have one for Mr. B, too. He has asked me to create a laptop case for him. His old one is wearing out. He is sending me images of lawyers to use in the cover.

It will be a challenge to construct something sturdy and cool looking. I may use my first zipper. I may not. The design will dictate.

Brian possesses a judicial mind. He has Libra rising. The astrological sign, Libra, is represented by the scales of justice. In addition to a deep love for argumentation, debate and intellectual wrangling he is a born peacemaker and diplomat. He is brave. He is forthright in speech but always considers the feelings and sensibilities of those to and for whom he speaks. He loves politics and sense-making. His motivations to engage in matters of law come from a lofty place.

Mr.BFramedI know one day he will do good work for others.

Mothers, if you ever worry about your children spending too much time with the video games, fear not. Brian and his best friend Barrack spent endless hours on World of Warcraft and other games. What they learned was to work well with others and the importance of prioritizing time and resources.

They learned that not all participants are capable of bringing their “A” game. They learned patience and the art of negotiation.

They learned to read a situation, intuit a variety of possible outcomes in a given scenario and they excelled at these things.

I think that is a good thing.

Season Finale

Posted in family, film, travel with tags , , , , on May 30, 2009 by darcyarts

Sunday will be the season finale of  AMC’s Breaking Bad . I have loved watching this show. The second season was full of ghastly happenings that were completely captivating. The brilliant writers and actors all deserve the fattest accolades.

WaltJesseCropBryan Cranston, Aaron Paul,  Anna Gunn (great name), yes, every actor on the show has been great.

What am I going to do when the season is over? Nothing else on TV is this good.

Any suggestions?

I urge you to treat yourself to this creation. Check out Breaking Bad at Netflix.

On the trip south last weekend I spent a great evening with my son, Brian. It was a Sunday and I was very fixated on finding a TV to watch Breaking Bad. No problem. The Max G. Arnold homestead is rich with the technology of visual/cerebral pleasure.

My son is learning law, day and night at the Arnold household. He also enjoys the perks.

Rex Arnold’s room is like a theater. No, it is a theater, equipped with a projector, a really big screen and black curtains to make the day like night. It is a cinema lover’s dream.

All the boys — Brian, Rex and Barrack — are history buffs. It was really fun to drop my hungry eye into that cinematic womb.

After we watched Breaking Bad we watched Luther. Joseph Fiennes plays Martin Luther, the father of the protestant church. The story depicts a fight for deliverance from old school Catholic domination in the 16th century in favor of a more DIY religious experience. Vanquish the hypocritical intermediary, sayeth Martin Luther.

Wonder if the sheer size of the images on that big screen can make any movie more spellbinding.

I loved hanging out with Brian even though my time there was short. I was sort of a stealth guest. Max and Margie had company and I didn’t want to intrude. Brian slept on a couch and gave me his comfortable bed.

I whimped out quickly on that trip and wanted to get back home to Frank. True Love does that.